When everything is so uncertain and things can change over a night, is it really necessary to make any plans? If yes, how is it even possible? These are the questions I would like to answer focusing on our personal lives.
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How easy it was to refuse food we didn’t like or things we didn’t want to do when we were young. We just simply said: NO!!! Later on it seems we forgot to say no. I wrote about how to start learning saying know without guilt in my previous article. What can we do when we are in the moment and want to say no? What techniques, tools we can use? I will share with you some practical methods now.
How easy it was to refuse food we didn’t like or things we didn’t want to do when we were young. We just simply said: NO!!!
Later on we learnt how to express ourselves in a more (socially) acceptable way and many times we tend to forget to say no. How much easier our lives would be if we could say again no easily like when we were younger. I am not saying of course to start screaming and throwing toys on the floor. Neither to start shouting, so everyone can hear us: NO! I am thinking on the ability to be able to refuse anything which is disadvantageous for us without feeling guilty about it.
Coaching is an excellent method to help someone to reach his/her goals and get through setbacks. However, it is still a new area and therefore many misunderstandings connect to it. During the past years I’ve heard excuses and misbeliefs about coaching and I would like to clarify them. Here are the top 3 excuses why not to hire a coach.
If you google goal setting you’ll find thousands of results about S.M.A.R.T. goals. This is a widely used and great method, often used also in corporate environment. However, it is misses a couple of aspects of goal setting. Here are my problems with SMART goals.
We live our lives in continuous connection with others. Internet gives us a lot of opportunities to avoid human contact, but it does not mean you do not need to communicate with others. Actually I think it became even more important to be able to express our thoughts and feelings effectively. We may need to prepare ourselves for public speaking for a job or explain something to our family. Communication is an essential part of our lives.
In my previous article I started to share with you some tips for speech preparation. You already know that you need to get to know your audience and the circumstances. You should become an expert of your topic even if you did not choose it. It is also important to prepare first the speech itself and only after the visual aids. What else can you do to prepare for your speech? Here are some more methods which have already worked for me.
Nowadays it is not enough if you are good at something, you must be able to present it flawlessly as well. I was asked several times for job interviews to prepare a presentation as a prework for the interview. However according to some studies a huge percentage of people are actually fear more of public speaking than death. I believe that if you prepare properly and practise, you can be a master of presentations. Some of us feel more natural to be on the stage, others of us spend a lot of time practising to get used to it. But it is a skill which can be developed. You can develop too.
Procrastination: “the action of delaying or postoning something”. We all do it. Sometimes we postpone activities which has less priority, sometimes we postpone more important tasks.
The literature, theaters and movies are full of stories of diaries. People since centuries has been writing about what happened to them, recording their feelings and memories. In our digital world, we have plenty of opportunities to record all these things. Does it still make sense to write a diary?
